Basic Guidelines

See below for more details

* No Pets Please
* This event is for adults only, thanks
* This is a substance free event, please leave alcohol and drugs at home

* We ask for respect for the neighbors driving to the site. Avoid driving away late at night.

* Please keep the site clean, leave no trace, give space and respect the animals and the private homes on the land.

* All interactions with others are by mutual consent, based on respect and clear communication
*No public sexual activity, keep it private

*Refrain from wearing strong scents to help others who are chemically sensitive

*No violence or loud public arguments or disturbances of any kind tolerated

*Keep quiet, especially in the dorms and camping area after 10 pm so others can sleep.
*Failure to comply with these guidelines could result in you being asked to leave without a refund.

Detailed Community Guidelines

We give thanks for permission from the Soulplay Festivals in California for use of this text! We are on the same page!

RESPECT OTHER PEOPLE’S EXPERIENCE

A Tantra Festival is an opportunity to dive deep into our patterns and beliefs. For some people the festival will be a fun relaxing weekend. For others, it may be a triggering environment. Whatever you are feeling, please respect that not everyone feels the way you do. People may get triggered and you may witness them feeling sad, angry, upset or tender. Others may feel elated, blissful, happy or joyful. Other people’s feelings are NOT something you should judge nor solve.

USE OF ALCOHOL AND OTHER MIND ALTERING SUBSTANCES

Tantra Festival workshops are best experienced sober and present. Out of respect for other participants, please show up to workshops fully present. If a presenter feels that you are unable to partake in the workshop due to inebriation, they may ask you to leave the workshop. Illegal substances are, quite simply, illegal.

SEXUAL ACTIVITY

We celebrate sexuality and encourage you to be as sexual as you choose, as long as all activity is consensual and conducted in your private tent, cabin or van. Sexual activity will NOT be permitted in any of the public areas, including the outdoor and workshop areas.

NUDITY

You have the opportunity, if you so choose, to explore the feeling of being without clothes in the pool area. Clothing, at least covering the genitals, is required in all other public areas including the workshops. Bare chests are fine in any area, on the private retreat grounds. Always sit on a towel or piece of clothing you own when sitting on any furniture, pillows, pads, etc if you are nude.

CONFIDENTIALITY

We would like to create an environment at our festival where people feel safe to share and open up. Therefore, when outside of a workshop (and definitely when outside of the festival), please do NOT share other people’s stories or actions. Feel free to share your own personal experience, not anyone else’s.

CONSENT AND BOUNDARIES

Everyone is invited to explore Radical Connection at their own pace. Don’t assume that people are open to engage in any activity (hugging, doing a workshop exercise), just because you are. Also remember, external behaviors may not always indicate what someone is open to.

The only way to know is to simply ASK them before acting. Example: “May I share a hug with you?” If the answer is “yes”, go for it. If the answer is “no”, kindly say “Thanks for being honest!”. Remember, it is quite hard for most people to say “no”. Appreciate them for it!
Every person is responsible for stating their own boundaries, and respecting others’. “No” means “no”. “Maybe” means “no”. Only “Yes” means “yes”.

DEAL BREAKERS

You are implicitly responsible for yourself and your actions. Any behavior that conflicts with the Oregon Tantra Festival Guidelines may result in removal from the venue without refund.

Safety & Consent

Oregon Tantra Festival creates environments that encourage people to come together, expand and grow, and experience bliss. In order to expand and grow, people need to get out of their comfort zone and take risks. We believe, if we are inviting our participants to take risks we must prioritize creating a safer space for everyone.

We do this through our three pillars of safer space: Presence, Choice, and Support.

Presence means that people are aware of their actions and the impact they have on others. This is why we encourage people to refrain from using any mind-altering substances.

We also encourage people to continuously reflect on their actions, thus creating more awareness and intentionality. When all people are really present, it allows people to explore their edge in a safe and constructive way.

Choice is the basis of consensual interactions. We believe that expanding your comfort zone and taking risks should be your choice and we provide reminders and education throughout our events.

Support is provided through our Support team on-site at every major event. Support are peer counselors ready to offer a listening ear, a nurturing hug, or intervene if necessary.

SEE SOMETHING THAT NEEDS ATTENTION?

If you see or experience behavior that is inappropriate or out of line at our events, please tell the Staff. We like to catch consent breaks early and often so we can prevent further issues.

Suggestions for Loving Relating

GET CURIOUS & CLEAR
Asking for a hug BEFORE hugging is awesome. Saying “I like you and I’d like to get to know you” is hot.
Asking “What are you up for?” is even hotter.
Finding out what level of play the person is up for BEFORE engaging is awesome.

LISTEN FOR THE “OH YES”!
Yes means yes, everything else means no or time to clarify.
Not doing anything until you hear, see, and feel a “YES!” is how we do it at SoulPlay.

THE ONLY CONSTANT IS CHANGE
Just because someone says yes once doesn’t mean they’ll say it again. Changing one’s mind in the middle is totally valid. Saying “Thank you for taking care of yourself” when they say “no” will blow them away.

AVOID REGRETS
Want to avoid regrets? Listen for the “no”, the “maybe”, the “I’m not sure inside yourself and with your partner. Some people have a hard time reading body language, use your words. If you want to stop, saying “stop” is often a good way… that’s a good time to stop and check-in.

OOOPS…I OVERSTEPPED A BOUNDARY
Sometimes it happens. Much of the time it’s by mistake. Whether it’s doing something to someone or having our boundaries crossed it never feels good. Following-up and clearing the air is the best.

THE POSSIBILITIES ARE ENDLESS
Just because one thing can’t happen doesn’t mean something else is out. Hitting a bump is a call for creativity. “I’m not up for that, but I’d be into…” is skillful negotiating.

HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY
Being truthful about your relationship status, your availability, and your sexual habits are the foundation of being a SoulPlay rockstar.

CHECK-IN AT THE END

Having a clear closing is key to keeping your loves feeling cared for and respected. Honor them to the end and thank them for sharing themselves with you.

Inclusivity, Thinking Beyond the Box

Oregon Tantra Festival culture welcomes many perspectives and views on gender, sexual orientation and sexual preferences. We encourage you to become familiar with these topics to encourage sensitivity to those who are not choosing traditionally normative ways of expressing themselves, but are unfolding into creative self expression and self definitions.

Here are some resources we recommend you check out!

Breaking Through the Binary, by Sam Killermann, which includes a great graphic of The Genderbread Person-
“Gender is a tough subject to tackle. There are many facets to consider and many pressures at play, and we have all been conditioned in such a way that our first instinct is almost unanimously wrong. But we’re going to tackle it.”

The New Paradigm of Sex and Relating
“Imagine living in a world where sex is an exciting frontier to explore instead of something painful or scary. Imagine embodying your desires and having the tools to express them gracefully and respectfully. Imagine a world where your sexuality is a path to heal old wounds, to honor ourselves and our partners, and to directly experience the sacredness of our lives.
If this isn’t your reality yet, then read on because this new vision of sexuality is closer than you think.”